Who in Hell Said, Better to Have Tried ‘n’ Failed? (Major depression)

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‘Gone fishing, you aren’t working anymore,’ so goes the melody, the soundtrack to a good old fishing holiday. I believe it is the soundtrack too, for advertisements selling fish in breadcrumbs. The term ‘gone fishing’ doesn’t directly relate to this in one instance of note. Have you ever known someone who tried and failed to set up a new business? Who said, ‘better to have tried and failed than not have tried,’ eh?

Some cultures look with enamor on the bankrupted individual, some will look and laugh delighted that the individual has failed to rise above their station in life. Failed to out do the person laughing and content with their lot of the nine to five, or not so content, but too afraid to take the risk themselves. Nine out of ten new businesses will fail, that is a lot of individuals who have put their heart and soul into something, and come out the other side where it would have been better for them not to have tried in the first place.

The term ‘gone fishing’ is used to describe the next actions of this individual who has lost at their roll of the dice. The person can’t be blamed for trying, we all apparently love a tryer, but the failure eats away at their insides, and it requires a very strong character type not to ‘go fishing.’ Often the individual slips into a major depression, it is hard to see everything that you have struggled, and worked hard for come crashing down around you, and even more difficult to just dust yourself off. Give yourself a good wiping down, and somehow pick up the pieces to rebuild your own life, or venture out immediately to try again. Those who can just do that are special individuals, and eventual success in this domain will come for them, but what of now?

The man or woman turns off their phone, becomes out of reach, and out of contact not only to those to whom they are indebted, (as is the intended purpose of the ‘retreat’) but the individuals they love and who love them also will be excommunicated. These failed business people are sore, their emotions are raw, and in particular if they approached the startup business venture with passion, that passion of theirs has been killed off through unbridled disappointment.

It is a sad and sorry state of affairs, and the individual is sad, sorry, lonely, depressed, fatigued. They have stopped enjoying life, they have feelings of inadequacy, they won’t be able to speak the way they once did so embarrassed as they are by their failure. They are a mere shadow of the person they were in the opening phase of their startup. On the depression scale to determine the level of ones depression, in particular if the ‘Gone Fishing’ phase cannot be snapped out of in under two weeks, these people are technically suffering from major depression.

They need to realise this in themselves. It is hard to bounce back, but having gone about starting a business, they obviously have some form of inner strength on which they can depend. Inner strength which can be used to bring back an inner sense of calm, to come to terms with their loss, and bring back the inner peace that has been lost.

It gets on my wick sometimes how the focus in the western world is on bringing about an enterprising spirit in people. Heroes are thrown in our face, and we are given idols to look up to, we are told, ‘you can do it.’ There are gurus aplenty earning their keep going around telling people how to do it, giving them the impressions that it is all a hell of a lot easier to succeed than it actually is. There are no lessons however, in how to deal with the ramifications when it does not work out (Very likely given the statistics.) There is no one warning those who they motivate to get out there, and give it a try that major depression can be a consequence of failure. Why is this?

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