Be Afraid of Fear (Depression statistics)

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In overcoming our fears we find just how brave we can be. With depression in mind it can bring about fears in us that never existed before. It can lead to the onset of new phobias, and our day to day lives can be made a living hell if we allow these phobias to get the better of us. Facing our fears and doing it anyway, getting over the conditioned response that we find ourselves performing when the hurdles need to be jumped, that is the hardest part.

The most commonplace phobia that arises is a social phobia, maybe we were never the most comfortable person in social situations before the depression set in, but in the now, the anxiety social scenarios brings for us can overwhelm our senses to ridiculous heights. It may please you to become aware, that even the best of us, even the individuals who appear to be in their element in these social confrontations experience doubt. We all have problems dealing with the social, be it getting tongue tied, being it getting self conscious, it is not comfortable for anyone really.

Looking at children as they play however, we see how some are just better at it than others. Some kids want to play alone, and that can be a precursor to how they will run their lives when they get older, some will only be content when they are with others which brings problems in itself in later life. Getting along with people, being brought along into situations which are outside our comfort zone, having to speak with total strangers can be unnerving for the best of us, but obviously more so when there is a social phobia suffered. It is food for thought and indeed a place where I find solace in the knowing that others are in the same boat. It shouldn’t help when you think about it, but it does help so use it. Phobias defy logic anyway, so why wouldn’t your solution to the issue defy logic?

Being afraid is no reason to quit, and being strong does not guarantee success, nothing in life is a guaranteed. Nothing is, but that is the beauty of trying. Life and its living is not scientific, and what works once may not work a second time. Here you and I find a positive frame of reference for our attempts to defy our limiting phobias. It is true also that just because you have tried in the past and failed, that does not mean that when you try the next time you will also fail. I have a friend and wow is that guy not suffering from any social phobia, he is of a positivity that would see me believe that he will never become one of the depression statistics. I’ve seen him try and try again with girls to no avail whatsoever. His appearance is almost comical, his speech too, he is the furthest thing from an alpha male that you could imagine, but his secret is in not letting the rejection get to him.

He is a disaster of unbelievable proportions but he is a tryer, and whilst God loves them I never knew that women love them too. Lately he has struck it lucky maybe with five different women in a row, after hundreds upon hundreds of rejections, his success defies logic. Depression statistics too defy logic. There is no reason why so many people fall into the trap of feeling so low when there is so much chance for good out there. It doesn’t just happen for the mega rich, the best life has to offer is in the little things, the free things, the social pursuits and the real beauty of connecting with people.

Granted that is an area where you, like I experience difficulties, but knowing of the importance of practicing it out, and just getting over our limitations in this domain we can get the full value out of them. It is in the knowing of what lies ahead, and the potential for more that will drive us over the edge of our phobia and into a zone where we can be comfortable.

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